Compare yourself to who you were yesterday, not to who someone else is today
Dr Phil is an American television personality best known for hosting Dr. Phil's talk show. He also regularly appeared on the Oprah Winfrey Show throughout the 90s and 2000s, tackling different topics and offering advice to his guests.
More recently, Dr Phil has been back on the speaking circuit promoting his new book, 'We've Got Issues'. He discusses the ubiquitous use of mobile devices. Dr Phil articulates that many people focus more on their phones than real-life relationships. Individuals may prioritise virtual interactions over real-world connections, leading to isolation, loneliness, and reduced empathy. Furthermore, constant connectivity fosters addiction-like behaviours, impairing productivity and increasing anxiety. As a result, relationships suffer, personal development stagnates, and overall wellbeing deteriorates.
We all understand that it is crucial to establish healthy boundaries with mobile devices to attain balance and foster genuine human connections. It is not helpful to constantly examine what others promote via social media. No matter how good we may be at something, someone out there can usually make us look inept!
An alternative perspective may be to compare yourself to who you were yesterday, not to who someone else is today. This idea promotes a focus on self-improvement, not comparison with others. When the apostle Paul wrote to the Corinthians, he explained an important principle: "When they measure themselves by themselves and compare themselves with themselves, they are not wise." (2 Corinthians 10:12). The word "wise" is the Greek word sophos, which means enlightened, wise, sharp, or bright. The verse could mean, always comparing yourselves among yourselves is not the sharpest or brightest thing to do!'
Implementing digital boundaries, such as limiting screen time and engaging in purposeful activities, fosters self-awareness, helps us to be present in the moment, deepens connections, improves sleep and mental health, and can cultivate meaningful experiences.
